Experts have 10 tips that can let you know if someone isn't telling you the whole truth.
J.J. Newberry was a trained federal agent,
skilled in the art of deception detection. So when a witness to a
shooting sat in front of him and tried to tell him that when she heard
gunshots she didn't look, she just ran -- he knew she was lying.
How did Newberry reach this conclusion? The answer
is by recognizing telltale signs that a person isn't being honest, like
inconsistencies in a story, behavior that's different from a person's
norm, or too much detail in an explanation.
While using these signs to catch a liar takes
extensive training and practice, it's no longer only for authorities
like Newberry. Now, the average person can become adept at identifying
dishonesty, and it's not as hard as you might think. Experts tell WebMD
the top 10 ways to let the truth be known.
Tip No. 1: Inconsistencies
"When you want to know if someone is lying, look
for inconsistencies in what they are saying," says Newberry, who was a federal agent for 30 years and a police officer for five.
for inconsistencies in what they are saying," says Newberry, who was a federal agent for 30 years and a police officer for five.
When the woman he was questioning said she ran and
hid after hearing gunshots -- without looking -- Newberry saw the
inconsistency immediately.
"There was something that just didn't fit," says
Newberry. "She heard gunshots but she didn't look? I knew that was
inconsistent with how a person would respond to a situation like that."
So when she wasn't paying attention, he banged on the table. She looked right at him.
"When a person hears a noise, it's a natural
reaction to look toward it," Newberry tells WebMD. "I knew she heard
those gunshots, looked in the direction from which they came, saw the
shooter, and then ran."
Sure enough, he was right.
"Her story was just illogical," says Newberry. "And
that's what you should look for when you're talking to someone who isn't
being truthful. Are there inconsistencies that just don't fit?"
Tip No. 2: Ask the Unexpected
"About 4% of people are accomplished liars and
they can do it well," says Newberry. "But because there are no
Pinocchio responses to a lie, you have to catch them in it."
Sir Walter Scott put it best: "Oh what a tangled
web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!" But how can you a
catch a person in his own web of lies?
"Watch them carefully," says Newberry. "And then
when they don't expect it, ask them one question that they are not
prepared to answer to trip them up."
Tip No. 3: Gauge Against a Baseline
"One of the most important indicators of dishonesty is changes in behavior," says Maureen O'Sullivan, PhD, a professor of psychology
at the University of San Francisco. "You want to pay attention to
someone who is generally anxious, but now looks calm. Or, someone who is
generally calm but now looks anxious."
The trick, explains O'Sullivan, is to gauge their
behavior against a baseline. Is a person's behavior falling away from
how they would normally act? If it is, that could mean that something is
up.
Tip No. 4: Look for Insincere Emotions
"Most people can't fake smile," says O'Sullivan.
"The timing will be wrong, it will be held too long, or it will be
blended with other things. Maybe it will be a combination of an angry
face with a smile; you can tell because their lips are smaller and less
full than in a sincere smile."
These fake emotions are a good indicator that something has gone afoul.
Tip No. 5: Pay Attention to Gut Reactions
"People say, 'Oh, it was a gut reaction or women's
intuition,' but what I think they are picking up on are the deviations
of true emotions," O'Sullivan tells WebMD.
While an average person might not know what it is
he's seeing when he thinks someone isn't being honest and attribute his
suspicion to instinct, a scientist would be able to pinpoint it exactly
-- which leads us to tip no. 6.
Tip No. 6: Watch for Microexpressions
When Joe Schmo has a gut feeling, Paul Ekman, a renowned expert in lie detection, sees microexpressions.
"A microexpression is a very brief expression,
usually about a 25th of a second, that is always a concealed emotion,"
says Ekman, PhD, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of
California Medical School in San Francisco.
So when a person is acting happy, but in actuality
is really upset about something, for instance, his true emotion will be
revealed in a subconscious flash of anger on his face. Whether the
concealed emotion is fear, anger, happiness, or jealousy, that feeling
will appear on the face in the blink of an eye. The trick is to see it.
"Almost everyone -- 99% of those we've tested in about 10,000 people -- won't see them," says Ekman. "But it can be taught."
In fact, in less than an hour, the average person can learn to see microexpressions.
Tip No. 7: Look for Contradictions
"The general rule is anything that a person does
with their voice or their gesture that doesn't fit the words they are
saying can indicate a lie," says Ekman. "For example, this is going to
sound amazing, but it is true. Sometimes when people are lying and
saying, 'Yes, she's the one that took the money,' they will without
knowing it make a slight head shake 'no.' That's a gesture and it
completely contradicts what they're saying in words."
These contradictions, explains Ekman, can be between
the voice and the words, the gesture and the voice, the gesture and the
words, or the face and the words.
"It's some aspect of demeanor that is contradicting another aspect," Ekman tells WebMD.
Tip No. 8: A Sense of Unease
"When someone isn't making eye
contact and that's against how they normally act, it can mean they're
not being honest," says Jenn Berman, PhD, a psychologist in private
practice. "They look away, they're sweating, they look uneasy ... anything that isn't normal and indicates anxiety."
Tip No. 9: Too Much Detail
"When you say to someone, 'Oh, where were you?' and
they say, 'I went to the store and I needed to get eggs and milk and
sugar and I almost hit a dog so I had to go slow,' and on and on,
they're giving you too much detail," says Berman.
Too much detail could mean they've put a lot of
thought into how they're going to get out of a situation and they've
crafted a complicated lie as a solution.
Tip No. 10: Don't Ignore the Truth
"It's more important to recognize when someone
is telling the truth than telling a lie because people can look like
they're lying but be telling truth," says Newberry.
While it sounds confusing, finding the truth
buried under a lie can sometimes help find the answer to an important
question: Why is a person lying?
These 10 truth tips, experts agree, all help
detect deception. What they don't do is tell you why a person is lying
and what the lie means.
"Microexpressions don't tell you the reason," says
Ekman. "They just tell you what the concealed emotion is and that there
is an emotion being concealed."
When you think someone is lying, you have to
either know the person well enough to understand why he or she might
lie, or be a people expert.
"You can see a microexpression, but you have to
have more social-emotional intelligence on people to use it accurately,"
says O'Sullivan. "You have to be a good judge of people to understand
what it means."
Extra Tip: Be Trusting
"In general we have a choice about which stance we
take in life," says Ekman. "If we take a suspicious stance life is not
going to be too pleasant, but we won't get misled very often. If we take
a trusting stance, life is going to be a lot more pleasant but
sometimes we are going to be taken in. As a parent or a friend, you're
much better off being trusting rather than looking for lies all the
time."
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